HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF TRULY

Our field is not as green as yours, what does it mean? I am my worst enemy. What does it mean? And then, no one is going to love you if you do not love yourself, and what does it mean? Okay, you have probably heard these words countless times before. It means that we need to love ourselves before we can be loved by anyone else.

We sometimes hate ourselves, we want to be somebody else. We have an ideal standard. What is ideal standard? In Psychology, Ideal standard is a circumstance when somebody thinks that he or she has an ideal thought of his or herself, maybe he or she thinks that his or her body is fat, short, dark-skinned, stupid, and old-fashioned. They will  love what someone else wears. They always think that they are not as beautiful and handsome as somebody else. 

Come on, guys, be conscious! We are different! We are what we have! We are unique! So, don’t ever try to imitate somebody else. Just love yourself and you will be happy.

Okay, now, how can I love myself truly?

Here are the steps. 

1.       1. Forgive yourself

We often make a mistake, but sometimes, we cannot forgive ourselves. We think that we do not deserve to get a forgiveness from ourselves, we feel that we are so silly when we are making a mistake. After that, our fault feels larger than it really was. But the fact, we will feel unhappy with it. We always think it all the time. So, guys, just forgive yourself even though it may take time, you have to fix your mistake, and promise not to do it again.

2.       2. Stop comparing yourself to others

As I said, we are different and unique. Unfortunately, many people, especially for teenagers, do not realize it. They act like they are somebody else. They sometimes compare themselves to other people. They have an ideal standard, so that they will hate their body. But, guys, no matter how silly we are, or how ugly we are. But, nevertheless, we are not pretending to be somebody else. We don’t need to hide ourselves.

3.       3. Stop seeking approval

We sometimes hide ourselves, we try to imitate what someone else do, we follow what they do. We want to be accepted by others. It is okay, actually, IF it is still good to do. But, hey, why don’t we show who we are?  Just say, “I’m okay with this! I’m okay with that!” We do not need to pretend to be someone else just because we want to get an approval from others. Just do the best.

4.       4. Believe in yourself

I ever read that the wonderful thing about believing yourself is that you are the only one responsible. We ourselves set our lives, dreams and futures. No one else can, but we are. How can we achieve what we want, if we do not believe in ourselves. Why don’t we stop to dream, IF we do not believe in ourselves? It is gonna be in vain, isn’t it?

In a word, Believe is the key to get success and to achieve our dreams.

5.       5. Practice silence

It is not always to let you in a silent, but maybe it is the spiritual key to get a glimpse of the person you really are. We have so much time to be alone, and this is the best time to think about who we are. We can do the meditation, yoga, or daydreaming to get a relaxation, to think of ourselves and to introspect ourselves. It is easy to think about ourselves when we are looking our face into the mirror, or when you are in a bathtub thinking about yourself.

6.       6. Express yourself

What is your hobby? Many of us love doing something. Do you love drawing? Just draw. Do you love singing? Just sing. Do you love reading a book? Why not? Just read a book. Express yourself, show your talents, and don’t be shy, even though you are sometimes scared of get ridiculed or made fun of. You will be fine.

7.       7. Loving yourself

It is very important! I will ask you a question. Who want to love yourself? Will your mother or your boyfriend and girlfriend? NO! If you answer yes, what is your reason? Okay, I know, they love you. But, who knows about all your secret, body and mindset? You are responsible to love yourself. You will be loved by others and if you really want to change the world, you have to love yourself first truly, believe and do the best.

xoxo

April 4, 2012

—Anitableau